20 Shocking Truths About Narcissism: A Twisty Tour through Diagnosis and Treatment

Katherine MacAulay

16. The "Idealization-Devaluation" Cycle: Rollercoaster Relationships

Worried asian woman comforting stressed partner at home. Photo Credit: Envato @chartchaik1

Relationships with individuals with NPD often follow a shocking, predictable "idealization-devaluation" cycle. Initially, they idealize partners, showering them with attention and charm. However, as the partner inevitably fails to meet impossible standards or provides insufficient "supply," the narcissist abruptly devalues and criticizes them. This emotional rollercoaster is profoundly damaging, leaving partners confused and traumatized. Recognizing this insidious pattern is vital for understanding the destructive nature of these relationships and protecting oneself from emotional manipulation.

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16. The "Idealization-Devaluation" Cycle: Rollercoaster Relationships

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