Lies That Will Ruin Your Relationship

"I'm A Big Fan Of..."

"I'm a big fan of..." Don't do this. It's always a terrible idea. Don't lie about your interests, whether they're hobbies, bands, books, celebrities, career goals, or some other arbitrary aspect of human life. When you say you're a fan of something you don't like, you then create a lie you have to commit to. You've locked yourself into pretending you enjoy this thing you dislike or feel ambivalent about. Over time, that can lead to a gaping hole of resentment. If you don't share an interest with your partner, be upfront and tell them.

But also let them know you appreciate their passion and want to support them in their endeavors. The same is true if your partner makes a meal you don't like; if you lie about liking it, what if they make that same meal at least once a week every week until you die? The things you have to live with because of these stupid lies are not worth it.

"I Want/Don't Want Kids."

"I want kids." "I don't want kids." Don't ever say these words to your partner when you don't mean them, especially if you're invested in your answer. For some individuals, having children is a life goal that's as important to them as getting to grow old and have a career they want. For others, having children is something they don't want at all, and they shouldn't be involved in raising a child they don't want. Too many times, one person will tell the other they want children when they're discussing the future. It may be an attempt to keep the relationship together, but any children you bring into that partnership will suffer. Telling your partner you don't want kids to make them happy is also hurtful. You'll end up growing resentful and feeling unfulfilled. The worst offenders are men who say this because they assume their female partner just hasn't started her maternal hormones yet. Plenty of women continue not to want children throughout their lives, and they shouldn't be pressured into it.

As a cautionary tale, it is best to never lie and to always be upfront about your feelings, thoughts, and experiences with your partner when it comes to dealing with an easy or difficult situation. If they truly love you and want it to work, don't hold back and openly communicate your feelings.