Tips On How To Help Your Child Develop A Positive Self-Esteem

Avoid Comparisons & Perfectionism

Nothing makes a child feel more terrible about themselves than hearing they are not worthy, valued, good enough, or that their sibling is superior in some way, shape, or form. By eliminating comparisons, you will be able to effectively increase your child’s self-esteem and minimize sibling rivalry. If anything, parents should be strengthening the bond between siblings, and equally praising each child for their strengths, rather than capitalizing on their weakness in comparison to their sibling. Also, parents should minimize the need for perfectionism or for having their child reach an obscenely high standard. By comforting your child and letting them know mistakes are okay and can happen, you can eliminate any unnecessary stress and anxiety the child may be experiencing in order to please you and receive praise.

Debunk Inaccurate Beliefs They May Have

Similar to perfectionism, children tend to be pretty harsh on themselves when they don’t accomplish something they have set their mind to, especially when trying something new; this can take a significant toll on their confidence. As a parent, it is our role to offer the child a more optimistic and objective view of the standards they set for themselves, which can efficiently turn their thoughts around to a more positive perspective. For instance, if your child is constantly telling you they are an awful student because they are not good at a particular subject, try reassuring them that they are an excellent student, they just need to spend a bit more time improving on that particular subject. It can also help to make a comprehensive plan with your child, such as setting aside extra study time for this subject, so they can observe their improvement and also know their parent is supporting them with this specific struggle.